Stop. Flip apps and set an alarm. It should go off the next time you're in a social situation and remind you that you should take 30 short seconds to pause, breath and take a look around you.You'll see the faces and postures of the social group, you'll see conversation, you'll see gestures and you'll … Continue reading The Secret to How a Pack of Playing Cards can Transform Your Social Life
Anxiety is a modern pandemic. Not because it's in any way new of course - no sane person could possibly think that being a peasant or facing down a bear armed with a stick wasn't a touch stressful - but the way we have learned to use the word; THAT'S new. You feel it in … Continue reading What’s the Opposite of Anxiety?
You can't get away from the fact that every so often, sometimes in quick succession, you're going to meet a real asshole or ten. These come in two forms: one is the kind that you create. In actual fact the person isn't all that bad but your image of them - what we call the … Continue reading The Magic Bullet for Dealing with Difficult People
In a previous post, I explored some of the ideas behind taking control of the breath. One of the key reasons for this, particularly in high-stress situations, is so that the voice can be modulated properly. Let's take a look at some the ways you can use your voice to be a more effective communicator. … Continue reading Whisper Above the Shouting: Using the Voice to Be Heard
One of the most fundamental ways we socialise is through the eyes. It has been suggested that the reason that humans have whites in their eyes (as for example apes do not) is that knowledge of where someone is looking is crucial to developing trust and therefore social relationships. Connect with People Through Eye Contact … Continue reading Look into my Eyes…..