Managing Confict: 6 Key Questions to Ask Yourself

Some people seem to thrive on conflict, seeking it in the tiniest of causes, heaping on catalysts like vodka on a bonfire. Others make a big thing of despising it, preferring to spread it out over time passively and with sniffy comments. Any extreme is always questionable in managing relationships so some sort of sliding […]

The Secret to How a Pack of Playing Cards can Transform Your Social Life

Stop. Flip apps and set an alarm. It should go off the next time you’re in a social situation and remind you that you should take 30 short seconds to pause, breath and take a look around you.You’ll see the faces and postures of the social group, you’ll see conversation, you’ll see gestures and you’ll […]

What’s the Opposite of Anxiety?

Anxiety is a modern pandemic. Not because it’s in any way new of course – no sane person could possibly think that being a peasant or facing down a bear armed with a stick wasn’t a touch stressful – but the way we have learned to use the word; THAT’S new. You feel it in […]

The Hiding of the Secret

All the way back at the dawn of time, the gods came together to review their latest creation. And they weren’t all happy; not in the least “This ‘human’ is an entertaining sort,” said one, “I do like their spirit…” “Indeed,” said laughed another “nothing seems to stop their exploration of the world we have […]

How to Stay the Course (when you don’t know what the destination will be…)

There are many times in our lives when we come to the metaphorical crossroads. Do we plunge on ahead, take a left, go back the way we came or pop into the McDonalds for a chocolate shake and some diabetes? A tweet came up in my feed from someone who was undecided about whether or […]

To Play the Actor, Embrace Silliness

Acting is ridiculous. Grown people strutting about the stage in all sorts of fancy get-up and pretending to be other people. Not to mention all the playing at being trees and trying to enact the jealousy of the wind through interpretive arm flapping. Its puerile, its lamentably pathetic, its… its childish! The idea of childishness […]

Whisper Above the Shouting: Using the Voice to Be Heard

In a previous post, I explored some of the ideas behind taking control of the breath. One of the key reasons for this, particularly in high-stress situations, is so that the voice can be modulated properly. Let’s take a look at some the ways you can use your voice to be a more effective communicator. […]

Look into my Eyes…..

One of the most fundamental ways we socialise is through the eyes. It has been suggested that the reason that humans have whites in their eyes (as for example apes do not) is that knowledge of where someone is looking is crucial to developing trust and therefore social relationships. Connect with People Through Eye Contact  […]