The world is full of the well-meaning and increasingly, people are so militant about what's helpful that they end up as discriminatory, as aggressive, as pernicious as the thing they swore to destroy. Sometimes its hilariously obvious, such as when people present ideas like everyone is equal and deserves love care and support, EXCEPT YOU, … Continue reading Rethinking the Words We Mistake as Helpful
The Buddha once asked that very question and the answer he came with is very interesting to those who want to raise their consciousness or understand their own mind. Mindfulness, whether you believe it’s a quick-cash-cow or a serious spiritual business (a contradiction in terms!) is,on the whole, pretty effective. It’s also widely misunderstood as … Continue reading Is the Mind Your Enemy or Your Friend?
In this age of binary adversity it's almost impossible to engage in nuanced argument. You're either with us or against us is the mantra of Twitter, Loonie Lefty! cries the right, nazi scum! holler the left. I tend to console myself with the words of Bertrand Russell who said The fundamental cause of the trouble … Continue reading The Opposite of Poverty
Happiness: it’s a multi-billion pound industry and it’s held up as everything from the cure for cancer to the reason for being alive. We go on courses, read books, strive and fight and compete and struggle and no matter what we possess, whatever we win, no matter how far we come in life, if we … Continue reading Are You Happy? What are you Even Measuring?
Sometimes we have to cut the crap and get down to business. Making educated guesses about people so that we can predict their behaviour is one of the most important things we do as social animals. Even something as tiny as having visible pupils on white backgrounds in our eyes give humans an advantage over … Continue reading These are the Motivators That Every Person Has (Even if They’re Fictional…)
You're walking through the woods, minding your own business, enjoying the song of birds, the buzz of bees, the hiss of a snake... wait, what? Unusual in Forest of Dean perhaps but not unheard of; just go with it. You see the snake, you think snakes are dangerous, they chomp their scary jaws into happy … Continue reading The Only Way to Treat the Things You’re Scared to Do
Anxiety is a modern pandemic. Not because it's in any way new of course - no sane person could possibly think that being a peasant or facing down a bear armed with a stick wasn't a touch stressful - but the way we have learned to use the word; THAT'S new. You feel it in … Continue reading What’s the Opposite of Anxiety?
Mindfulness is one of the most abused terms in the English language at the moment and the massive gap between its study, the media and the claims of some of its practitioners is yawning ever more widely. The Financial Times today runs this article that confidently proclaims that Mindfulness at work is not quite what … Continue reading Be Mindful of the Gap Between Research and Reporting
All the way back at the dawn of time, the gods came together to review their latest creation. And they weren't all happy; not in the least “This ‘human’ is an entertaining sort,” said one, “I do like their spirit...” “Indeed,” said laughed another “nothing seems to stop their exploration of the world we have … Continue reading The Hiding of the Secret
There are many times in our lives when we come to the metaphorical crossroads. Do we plunge on ahead, take a left, go back the way we came or pop into the McDonalds for a chocolate shake and some diabetes? A tweet came up in my feed from someone who was undecided about whether or … Continue reading How to Stay the Course (when you don’t know what the destination will be…)