The world is full of the well-meaning and increasingly, people are so militant about what's helpful that they end up as discriminatory, as aggressive, as pernicious as the thing they swore to destroy. Sometimes its hilariously obvious, such as when people present ideas like everyone is equal and deserves love care and support, EXCEPT YOU, … Continue reading Rethinking the Words We Mistake as Helpful
Some people seem to thrive on conflict, seeking it in the tiniest of causes, heaping on catalysts like vodka on a bonfire. Others make a big thing of despising it, preferring to spread it out over time passively and with sniffy comments. Any extreme is always questionable in managing relationships so some sort of sliding … Continue reading Managing Confict: 6 Key Questions to Ask Yourself
The Buddha once asked that very question and the answer he came with is very interesting to those who want to raise their consciousness or understand their own mind. Mindfulness, whether you believe it’s a quick-cash-cow or a serious spiritual business (a contradiction in terms!) is,on the whole, pretty effective. It’s also widely misunderstood as … Continue reading Is the Mind Your Enemy or Your Friend?
In this age of binary adversity it's almost impossible to engage in nuanced argument. You're either with us or against us is the mantra of Twitter, Loonie Lefty! cries the right, nazi scum! holler the left. I tend to console myself with the words of Bertrand Russell who said The fundamental cause of the trouble … Continue reading The Opposite of Poverty
Happiness: it’s a multi-billion pound industry and it’s held up as everything from the cure for cancer to the reason for being alive. We go on courses, read books, strive and fight and compete and struggle and no matter what we possess, whatever we win, no matter how far we come in life, if we … Continue reading Are You Happy? What are you Even Measuring?
Sometimes we have to cut the crap and get down to business. Making educated guesses about people so that we can predict their behaviour is one of the most important things we do as social animals. Even something as tiny as having visible pupils on white backgrounds in our eyes give humans an advantage over … Continue reading These are the Motivators That Every Person Has (Even if They’re Fictional…)
Stop. Flip apps and set an alarm. It should go off the next time you're in a social situation and remind you that you should take 30 short seconds to pause, breath and take a look around you.You'll see the faces and postures of the social group, you'll see conversation, you'll see gestures and you'll … Continue reading The Secret to How a Pack of Playing Cards can Transform Your Social Life
Whether you’re trying to figure out how you come across to people or creating a character for the page or stage, one of the key considerations in how they or you communicate is accent & dialect. An audience (reader/audience/colleague/friend etc.) will connect meaning to your natural state and choices based on stereotypes & prejudice, and … Continue reading Harness the Power of Accents and Dialect (and Know the Difference)
You're walking through the woods, minding your own business, enjoying the song of birds, the buzz of bees, the hiss of a snake... wait, what? Unusual in Forest of Dean perhaps but not unheard of; just go with it. You see the snake, you think snakes are dangerous, they chomp their scary jaws into happy … Continue reading The Only Way to Treat the Things You’re Scared to Do
When the director of a theatre performance creates a show, they should always sit in more than one seat. That's the advice I used to give acting students who wondered why I would dart around the auditorium like a coked-up bluebottle during every scene. In a 500 seat theatre, you're making 500 different performances, as … Continue reading Which Show Are You Watching? How We Make Our Thoughts Come True (and what we can do about it).